Sugar Daddy Myth Buster: Fake Profiles

Disclaimer: All the usual applies and this is my personal opinion. I do not own or am a paid affiliate of any sugar dating website.  I do not put up ads on my blogs as it is not about making money from you but simply giving you information that I wish someone had first given me when I started negotiating the online sugar dating world.

Before I tackle today's topic I want to state that I get paid my no one but I would highly suggest and endorse one website that I have found superior over all others.  Seeking Arrangement and though there are some who will disagree with me we all have our preferences but I like this site and found some quality SD's there.  I also recommend a book that the sites founder has written if you choose to pursue the sugar bowl which can help you greatly gain a greater understanding of the what and how too's  in finding a sugar arrangement. Now that I sound like a commercial I must say that you will find a warm support blog there which offers and ask advice and you can learn so much as well as find what you might be looking for.

There are so many misconceptions of what an arrangement in the Sugar World constitutes, yet the reality is a sugar arrangement is an individual choice and exactly what you make it. When you choose a SD and negotiate the details of your arrangement it is going to be what you agree on, therefore, if you leave out certain things that are important to you it is not the SD's fault that you feel wronged if he is living up to the negotiated agreement.  This is why it is so important for a newcomer to ask those important questions of themselves and know what they want before a meet. 

I have touched on posers and fakes in another article but today I want to give some solid examples of red flags and profiles that I have learned to not give a second thought too.  Again these are my opinions but I have learned from my mistakes as well as mistakes of others.  The role of a sugar daddy has been consistent throughout the ages.. a man of means who seeks to pamper and take care of the needs of a woman.  As you read profiles from what ever sugar dating site you are searching on you will run across many interesting profiles.  Some will state looking for a fun time, looking for a good time, amount negotiable, talk about how great they are, what they have, list their net worth over 50 million and yet they are not a premium member of the site.  I have often questioned this as I want the ability to see who has viewed me, and other little features you get with a premium membership.  Because I am serious about my search I have chosen to take out the premium membership myself and if I can afford to skip a couple lattes for the month and do this I would think a real sugar daddy would have no problem coming up with the 20 bucks for this.  Recently I was contacted by a few who are on the site for free and very sweetly inquired why they haven't upgraded to a premium membership. One stated he does not pay for anything he can get for free... another did not think fast enough and actually said he could not afford it right now.  Wow.. if he can not afford that how can he afford to be a generous benefactor?  This ladies is what I am talking about.. clues that are out there..  when they put themselves up on a pedestal but have no action to their words.  Those answers told me volumes and I quickly moved on not wasting my time and energy is those who are deceptive.  Some will come right out and state in their profiles as I saw one that listed he compensates from 40 dollars to a few hundred for test drives.  I am not a car which is my simple response and again I move on.  Anyone can call themselves a sugar daddy but that does not mean they are.  Some are simply pretenders with no intentions of actually meeting, others are just trying to find an angle to have quick sex and recently I have even ran across those who are approaching the sugar bowl in a pay as you go style.. with no agreed on amount, time or how often you meet.  The problem with this is there is no arrangement.. it is what ever they dictate and you can quickly find yourself burned in the process.  This is not the same as Pay 4 Play but I assure you that a pay as you go where each time the amount you receive is less and less, along with the fact that there is no pampering of you involved only you catering to his needs is not in any form a sugar arrangement.. give guys like this the phone number to your local escort service!!!    These are not Sugar Daddies so lets put those myths to bed once and for all.

Now lets look again on any site for more profiles, do you see statements like chemistry a must, looking for a connection on many levels, not looking for meaningless sex or drama?   These type of profiles often will list what their budget is instead of open, they will have a well thought out list of their interest and what they are looking for.  Some will even state what age range they are seeking, if they are looking locally or open to a young woman from another area.  Well heeled gentleman usually have well written, thought out profiles and do not have the need to boast about what they have, they will often state they have less than they do and for the most part are thoughtful.  If they have pictures posted also look for clues in the pictures, the background, how they are dressed etc.  These men usually do not think twice about upgrading to a premium membership and are use to doing many things first class.  These gentlemen are known as Sugar Daddies and they are looking for meaningful sugar relationships not meaningless!  So what makes a sugar arrangement meaningful?

Appreciation!  A sugar babe will show her appreciation for her SD by being well mannered in public and a bit naughty behind closed doors. She will demonstrate her interest in her SD by actively listening to him, showing him affection and building a mutually beneficial relationship with him based on trust, honesty, respect and caring.  A meaningful sugar arrangement has a mutual vested interest in each other, and it is rewarded by mutual pampering.  Often this means financial help, gifts, travel and mentoring or a combination of those elements.  It is what ever the two of you agree to when you enter the arrangement.  A real sugar daddy will be concerned about your welfare but few appreciate drama which is why I stress manners and always being careful how much you drink.  Some sugar daddies will be very specific amount a certain amount of time they are willing to commit to the arrangement and if it is working out well often wants to continue it on but again it is what you negotiate so always be prepared to discuss openly and honestly what your needs are. 

Know why you are in the sugar world!

A potential SD ask you why are you in the sugar world.. what would your answer be?
Money, gifts, travel???  or do you have goals that you want to accomplish.  We ask questions of a potential but if they are clearly interested in us they will also ask questions.. entering the sugar world and determining if it is right for you.. it is important to ask your self some questions and know the answers for your self before you get put on the spot.

If you simply answer money it sends a message to the Pot that this is all you care about.  When a SD has so much more to offer than just money.. they are in their position to be generous as they are successful and we can learn from that success.  Many SD's can be mentors, offer their wisdom and experience in many different arenas.  Some will assist with education cost, basic living cost and so much more yet many want to know that the money they are investing in you is going to make your life better to some degree.  Why would they want to do this for you?  They develop an emotion bond or connection on some level to you and they can only do this by getting to know you so they ask questions as well.  Here is a list of questions I have been asked in the past which I can tell you when you ask yourself these questions and know the answer it makes it much easier when they ask you. 

Questions:
How do you know you really want to be a sugar babe?
Do you understand what is involved in the sugar world?
Why do you want to be a sugar baby?
What do you think you have to offer in an arrangement that sets you apart from other babes?
How do you envision a sugar arrangement to work?
How do you plan to use your monthly allowance?
Are there things sexually you are not comfortable doing?
Would you be willing to sign a non disclosure form?

You stated in your profile you are a social drinker, what do you consider a social drinker?
During the talk when we are working out the arrangement I have been asked questions like:
Do you enjoy anal sex?
So you shave or wax your puss?
Will you have an objection to spending the night on our meets?
Do you have a passport?
Can I see your identification before we finalize the agreement?

These are all very valid questions when you have came to an agreement or are working out the details.  And if you are offended by these questions understand what you are entering a mutually beneficial arrangement and many SD's have preferences some like shaven, some like certain types of sex, some just meet for a few hours at a time others like overnights.  Many will take you to exotic places and yes you need a passport.  Some want to know that you have not lied to them and make sure that they at least know your name and birth date are true.  This is why you should be yourself and answer questions honestly and never agree to do anything you are not comfortable with.  I had one SD potential who it got to finalizing an agreement with and he said he never uses condoms so would I have a problem with this.  My answer was simply yes.. you must get checked for disease and std's before you could ever touch me without a condom.. he was offended and we went our separate ways.  Safety in all forms is important to me.. and we should all get tested from time to time to be safe. 

There are more questions they could ask so you need to know why you are in the sugar world, what your limitations are in time constraints, what you are willing to do or not do, and know if you feel you can trust the person before entering an arrangement.