Screening is one of the most important steps in journey in the Sugar Bowl. How important is it? You can save yourself a lot of time by learning how to screen out the fakes and also avoid much stress and aggravation in your search by learning what type of questions to ask.
First of all we are adults and if you are pursuing the sugar world then you should have a general knowledge of what it involves. Usually it involves many different elements and one of those is sexual relations. If you are just starting to get your feet wet in the sugar world you need to ask your self some questions before you continue. How much do I want this? Do I have a thick enough skin to handle rejection? Do I have sexual hangups? What age range of a potential sugar do I want to pursue: note this is extremely important.. are you comfortable with men who are twice your age? What do you want.. what are your expectations for a sugar relationship? Once you have answered these questions.. ask your self what type of questions you feel are important to know about someone that you could possibly enter an arrangement with and share intimate moments with?
So here you are receiving messages from your profile that you have on a sugar daddy dating site. The first rule of communication is well thought out replies. Just as you will be watching what they write.. the flip side to this is that many quality Sugar Daddies also look for clues. It is more than just proper grammar and spelling! They watch for a measure of intelligence and signs that you both have common interest. As you reply ask questions that show an interest in what they have to say. If they state they are an experience SD ask them if their past arrangements were good ones.. draw them out to learn more regarding what type of SD they are. If they are not from your area ask them to make the first meeting in your town or close by.. if they are genuine they seldom will ask for you to come to them on the first meet. If they tell you a story about they will reimburse you for flight and hotel arrangements once you arrive be aware this could be a wasted trip and the chances are you are being played and should say Next!
Except in casual conversation arrangement talk should not even be brought up until you have the opportunity to meet and see if you even click. Use the initial messages back and forth as a way to discover if you have common ground. Learn about interest, likes and dislikes.. if the Potential pushes to talk about sex after just a couple messages or request private photos that are in the nude or semi nude again the same rule applies about what that person will do with the pictures once they have them. You need to think if this is the person you want an intimate arrangement with? Look at the screening process as if you are screening someone for a potential job .. the position of being your sugar daddy. What are the requirements for that job title? Dependable? Honest? Trustworthy? Great Bod or looks do not matter? Young or Old? Slim, Athletic, Few extra pounds or grossly overweight? Foul mouthed or a gentleman? Has manners or it does not matter? This is all relevant in the screening process if you want a successful arrangement and although their are some who will say it doesn't matter it actually does if you want to beat the 3 month curse. The 3 month curse is a saying as so many new arrangements fall apart by the third month for many reasons.
By the time I exchange phone numbers I feel somewhat comfortable that this person has some qualities that makes me want to know more. I use the phone calls to gauge how they will react to some questions. I ask about more personal things like what they envision a good sugar relationship to be, how often they would want to meet and get a general feeling if they are seeking to pay an allowance or are seeking a P4P style or even just a gift or shopping daddy style of relationship. If the opportunity comes up I will even before the first meet jokingly ask about their kinks and again this is all relevant. And once we have arranged for a first meet I make sure that I am punctual and looking my best which is appropriate for where we are meeting. I will not agree to a in private meet on the first meeting or to a all day situation.. Spell out where, how long for the first meet. Keep it simple and be yourself but even if this person is not for you it is no reason to be ugly. In the sugar bowl we all talk and you can get labeled yourself as a phony or wannabee so it is important to always practice good manners.
Always ask questions that are relevant to you and what will help you to know if this arrangement could possibly work out but avoid the mistake of simply accepting anything because you feel desperate or using pictures to turn a fast buck or rip off an SD as that makes it tough for the whole sugar bowl. I stress once again that you need to practice safety before meeting a potential and let someone know where you are going and when you should be expected back. After your first meet you need to question if you felt any chemistry.. if you found the Pot enlightening, honest, or if you felt a few negative vibes. Sugars pay very close attention to your gut feeling and those little red flags and remember if it sounds too good to be true it usually is.
In the next entry I will focus on the first few meets and talking about sexual and financial expectations. So many SB's make big mistakes of not discussing how the money or gifts will be received or when and this should all be arranged in advance.
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