The Talk and when to have it.

So you have gotten the first meeting out of the way and are planning to meet a potential sugar again.  He wants to talk more about an arrangement.. there is not right or wrong time for the talk but never have sex on the first couple meets especially without an arrangement.  Do you really know that his expectations meet your own?  I have compiled a list that most seasoned SB's and SD's will tell you are essential to ask during the initial meets but this does not mean that these are the only questions that should be asked.  You should clarify anything that you think is relevant to you.
Questions to ask your SD..lets recap
How do you percieve Sugar dating differs for you compared to traditional dating?
Have you had a sugar arrangement before and if yes..do you find these experiences to be what you expected?
If they are a newbie ask why do you want to be an SB or SD?
What are you hoping to get out of an arrangement?
How do you envision this arrangement working out?  What do you want, expectations and what are you specifically expecting in return. ( If he opens up fully about his expectations you can also ask how quickly he expects intimacy.)

Now you are at a second or third meeting and no closer to an arrangement but if you have asked some critical questions you now know what this Potential is looking for. I have found that if a potential is truely interested in me at this point he has made it clear and often has supplied me with a little envelope with a monetary gift just to show he appreciates the time I am taking to not only meet with him but also for the effort and time it took me to get ready for the meet.  This clearly establishes a sign of good faith. However, if you leave this topic alone because you are uncomfortable with the talk or not know how to approach it, remember this is not normal life dating scenarios which you just leave open ended.  You are here looking for a Sugar arrangement and each arrangement is different designed to be mutually beneficial for both parties.  Each person has their own expectations, wants, needs and desires.. they each have a certain type of person they desire and it involves various body types, skin color, nationalities, levels of experience, education, intelligence, person trait requirements like non smoker or non drinker for example and each of these are relevant to the individual.

Some SD's for example prefer not to bring up the arrangement initially as they are looking at more than just the pretty face and hot bod,  they often take their time to gain a viable impression of a Potential but seldom take offense after a few meets if the SB ask them  what they are thinking or ask if they feel a certain type of chemistry.  If you have been paying attention to what they say you should know at this point if this is a good fit for you and as you move into the talk you need to be completely honest about your expectations and how comfortable you are with certain aspects of sugar dating.  Be clear and concise with what your intentions are, know exactly what he wants, time frame to start intimacy and how often he wants to see you.

Ask your self how interested you are in this Potential and if you can see yourself in bed with this person and look forward to it and not feel disgust.  If you can not envision this then you should move on.. a bad arrangement never last and if money is the only reason you are going to meet him then eventually it is going to show anyways and when these arrangements sour this is where drama often comes in.. and it is best avoided by being honest. If you are enjoying his companionship take the time to let him know, ask questions that let him know you are interested in him.  Many SD's have so much experience in life and financial situations that they are wonderful mentors and it is the perfect opportunity for you to learn from them.

Finally before you accept an arrangement make sure the terms are spelled out .  Be clear about traveling and who is responsible for the cost.. when you will receive and how you will receive an allowance. Be clear about sexual time frames and what you are or aren't comfortable with.  If some of your time together requires a certain type of wardrobe that you do not have make it clear who is responsible for those cost if it is something he is demanding.  Define shopping trips or gifts.. in range of how often or what if it is strictly a gift daddy.  Be cautious before you give out banking information to a pot.. I always practice safety now with financial matters and use a prepaid re loadable card with a 10 Grand limit that I can use as a cc or debit card.  It can be reloaded from practically any where and initially I find it safer for me.

There are plenty of fakes in all aspects of the sugar world and it is up to us to avoid many of these pitfalls by practicing safety, careful screening and finding our voice to talk to the pot.