Safety in the online sugar world.

I can not stress enough how important safety is for all parties concerned.
Sugar Babes:  It is essential to initially protect your private information as you embark on your search to find a sugar daddy.  Why?  Men are generally stronger than women and you can not assume that everything they have told you is correct, therefore, it is up to you to verify the information they have given you.  As you exchange messages never agree to meet anyone who has not given you a first and last name as well as a city and state.  Type that info into a search engine such as Google and learn what you can about them.  Does their information match?  If you have exchanged phone numbers do a reverse phone look-up on the phone number to see who it is registered too.  Has he sent you pictures?  Do an online search of pictures with that persons name and see if he shows up.. often many people have the same name but if you find a picture of him matching the name and you recognize him it is a pretty sure bet that is who will show up if you choose to meet.

Never meet someone for the first time in his hotel room.. always choose a public place that is well lit and populated.  Always let someone know where you are going to be and who you will be with.  You say this is impossible as no one knows what you are doing and would not approve if you told them?  You can still find a way to network many sugar dating sites such as my favorite Seeking Arrangement   will have a blog or forum where we can go to share stories and ask questions on their website.  Take the time to interact with others and check out some of the other babes blogs.. if someone is in your area take the time to email that sugar sister and let them know when you are going on a first meet.. most will be happy to be a contact just make sure you let them know you are safe after the meet is over.  This is so important because just like in real life scenarios there are always unscrupulous people lurking who are not what they claim to be, they may not have good intentions and we must protect ourselves.

Ask lots of questions before you agree to meet someone.. get to know that person and if you feel he or she is too good to be true you are probably right.  Never give out your banking information in the beginning, or your social security number and I speak from experience as in this technology age there are some who have no intention of actually putting money in your account but if they can find a way they will help themselves to what you have.  If someone ask you right from the start to send them nude pictures remember that these can float all around in cyber space and you do not know what they might do with the pictures after you have sent them.  If someone you have made contact with immediately wants to have phone sex understand that this is not going to mean that he is going to offer an arrangement. It only means he is going to get a rise over how trusting you are.. and in time the more bad, phony or poof daddies you run across, will take a toll on you emotionally.  If you want a real sugar arrangement that is based on trust and chemistry you must present yourself in a confidant matter and not play games.  Being safe is crucial in the sugar world and to be safe you need to avoid the most common mistakes often made by new sugars starting with how you represent yourself.

Sugar Daddies and Mommies:  You have the means to help someone and are seeking just that a babe or male to pamper and spoil and make life easier for but you also need to be careful.  There are many fakes on both sides of the spectrum and you should never wire money to a contact you have never met just because they give you a hard luck story.  Never assume that what they are telling you is accurate either.. take the time to know your potential.  If you are a man looking for a sugar babe be realistic with your expectation with her, be generous to let her know you are interested but be cautious at first and take time to build trust in your sugar.  You can show you are genuine by suggesting meeting in public places, not pressure her in the initial meeting stage to go to a hotel room with you for a few hours for a try out.  This is not being genuine and do not assume that all the women you meet would say no to that suggestion.  Example:  A man meets a potential sugar.. she agrees to a few stolen moments in a hotel room he checks in and takes her to his room.  They get undressed ..she fixes them each a drink and 15 minutes later the room is spinning and he is out cold.. when he wakes up he is embarrassed still horny as hell and his wallet , rings and watch is gone.  Yes this can happen to you too so take safety measures to know your Pot and be a gentleman.

Part of being safe is finding an effective way to screen potentials before meeting, this is not fool proof but careful screening can prevent many things from happening.  The next post will discuss screening and what type of questions to ask.